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A la Carte: Spicy Ghonjhi

This has been the source of high protein for a number of tribes in Tarai for years. I wonder if we could market this and bring it to the Five Star Hotel. Many would love to take a taste of this dish.

 

For those who have never tested this special dish, it tastes very piquant but as you gradually realise the preciousness about the dish, you will ask for more.

 

The shells called Ghonghi are the main ingredient for the dish. You can find it in fresh water streams, lakes and rivers. People in Far and Mid west use Helka to scoop these Ghongis from muddy watersheds. Once you collect enough ghonghis, they will have to be rinsed well till the mud is cleansed from the ghonghis. Then boil it for about five minutes and drain the water. Then mix the boiled stuff with mustard oil and the spices, including grinded chillies, cumin, garlic, coriander, salt etc.

[As told by Badka from Bardiya]

'Ridiculously Photogenic Guy' picture from 10k race goes viral

By Chris Chase | Fourth-Place Medal – Fri, Apr 6, 2012 10:35 PM SGT

 

It's not whether you win or lose, it's how you look when they take your picture.

For 25-year-old Zeddie Little of New York, an affable smile amidst the pain of long-distance running that was captured during a 10k race in Charleston, S.C. turned him into a viral phenomenon knows as "Really Photogenic Guy." Nearly 1.4 million people have viewed the picture in recent days on Flickr and it has been uploaded countless times to social media sites like Facebook and Twitter.

A South Carolina systems analyst named Will King was looking through his photos of last weekend's Cooper River Bridge 10k when he stumbled across the one above. He noticed how different Little looked than all the other runners and uploaded it.

 

"One of my friends commented on the picture and said something along the lines of 'I dub this guy Mr. Ridiculously Photogenic,'" King told the Post and Courier . "I thought it was a pretty cool comment, so I posted it on Reddit. For some reason it just took off from there."

The nickname sounds like one the characters on "Friends" would have bestowed upon a handsome neighbor.

The juxtaposition of Little's smile and the rest of the runners is what makes the picture so amusing. Photoshop him out of that shot and put him in a family photo at Disney World and Little doesn't look any more "ridiculously photogenic" than anyone else. But while running a 45-minute race in the spring heat of South Carolina? Yeah, that's a photogenic guy.

 

URL Source: http://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/olympics-fourth-place-medal/ridiculously-photogenic-guy-picture-10k-race-goes-viral-143529070.html

Alicia Silverstone feeds baby mouth to mouth

Cover Media – Tue, Mar 27, 2012 7:30 PM SGT

Alicia Silverstone has posted a video of herself feeding her baby mouth to mouth.

The 35-year-old actress gave birth to baby Bear Blu 10 months ago and is delighted he is now going onto solid food.

But the actress has chosen an unconventional way to feed him and seems to have been inspired by the way birds feed their young.

The Clueless star is seen taking a mouthful of food and chewing it up before placing her mouth over her baby’s and feeding him the softened morsels.

Bear Blu is seen reaching to his mother’s mouth to get fed and appears to be comfortable with getting his meal that way.

“I just had a delicious breakfast of miso soup, collards and radish steamed and drizzled with flax oil,” Alicia wrote on her blog.

“Cast iron mochi with nori wrapped outside, and some grated daikon. Yum!

“I fed Bear the mochi and a tiny bit of veggies from the soup… from my mouth to his. It’s his favourite… and mine.

“He literally crawls across the room to attack my mouth if I’m eating. This video was taken about a month or 2 ago when he was a bit wobbly. Now he is grabbing my mouth to get the food!”

Alicia is a staunch vegan and is bringing up her son that way too. She is married to singer and radio presenter Christopher Jarecki. They met in 1997 and tied the knot eight years later.

Watch the video of her feeding her child below.

URL souce: http://sg.entertainment.yahoo.com/news/alicia-silverstone-feeds-baby-mouth-mouth-113000930.html

Veena Malik is a slur on Pakistan says Resham

Monday, April 9th, 2012 11:04:40 by Imran Shaukat Khan

 

It’s been more than a year now since the drama queen, Veena Malik, is in India but now she is finally planning to return to her homeland. However, it seems as if she is not being welcomed at all by the Pakistani actors.

Resham, one of the leading Lollywood actresses, has insisted that Veena should be ashamed of herself for what she has done in India.

Veena Malik has portrayed a negative image of our country. She should be ashamed of this,” film star Resham commented while talking to www.pakdestiny.com.

Controversy’s favorite child, Veena Malik, rose to fame during her stint in the Bigg Boss house because she started an affair with a Bollywood actor, Ashmit Patel, who was also a participant.

The actress did many other cheap publicity stunts in India but the biggest of all was her ‘nude’ appearance on the cover page of FHM India. The news caused a storm in her country so much so that she started getting death threats.

Resham stressed that Pakistan needs people like Sharmeen Obaid and Arfa Randhawa, the youngest Microsoft specialist who died not too long ago, and not Veena Malik.

Resham further said, “An artist of a nation actually represents his or her country but artists like Veena Malik are a slur on our country. We need people like Sharmeen Obaid and Arfa to represent our country. Veena is a shame for us and our religion,” Resham concluded.

Well, when Veena was asked she said “I am the real darling of the nation.”

The people who say negative things about me are actually jealous of my fame.”

The actress, in the meantime, admitted that she fears that she may get assassinated by another ‘Qadri’ on her return to Pakistan. Nevertheless, she still said that she will return to her homeland one day.

While sharing her fear with www.Pakdestiny.com, Malik said, “I have received threats from extremists. My friends ask me not to be worried but I take them (threats) seriously. I will reconsider my homecoming plan.”

Veena added, “Pakistan is my country and I will come back one day.”

 

Short URL: http://www.newspakistan.pk/?p=18364

Pakistan media comes of age: showcases the glamorous face of Pak

By Alizeh Kohari

Karachi

 

Hello! magazine has arrived in Pakistan, on a mission to celebrate the country's glamorous side - one that is missing all too often in international news coverage - and to help develop a home-grown celebrity culture.

 

A clink of jewellery, a tinkle of glass, a hushed audience and a lit-up runway - and Hello! Pakistan is launched in Karachi, with an extravagant four-day fashion show.

 

Publishers hope the magazine, which will hit news stands in mid-April, will - by showcasing gloss and glamour - dispel some of the gloomier images foreigners associate with Pakistan.

 

"We will highlight the fashionable and the athletic, the intellectual and the aesthetic," says Zahraa Saifullah.

 

Pakistan already has a number of local publications whose glossy pages are devoted to showcasing the weekend engagements of the Pakistani elite. But the team at Hello! Pakistan - the country's first international franchise of this kind - says that their approach will be different.

 

"The aim is to move beyond the 'typical 10'," says Wajahat Khan, the consulting editor at the magazine. "We want the 11th man, the 12th girl, the 13th crossdresser."

 

 

The Hello! launch fashion show continued for four days

"We have a thriving television industry, an emerging literary scene - and we have a very strong art scene," adds editor-in-chief Mahvesh Amin. "We're going to tap into all of these as well as others - politicians, businessmen, sports figures - and cover them as personalities."

 

In the US and the UK, she says, the mere sight of a celebrity walking down a street - say, Angelina Jolie - can classify as news. In Pakistan, this isn't really the case.

 

"So we've decided that our coverage will be more achievement-oriented," she says. "People who are doing good things, have done great things. This way, we'll create celebrities."

 

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You will never find a picture of a topless Veena Malik [above] plastered on our cover”

 

Zahraa Saifullah

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Saifullah, who says she grew up watching her mother and grandmother flipping through the pages of international Hello!, says it took her two years to coax the the international franchise into Pakistan.

 

Initially, the management was "reluctant to enter a market that is not really perceived as a prime investment opportunity," she says.

 

It's true, the market for an English-language print publication is limited in a country with low literacy rates even in Urdu.

 

According to consulting editor Wajahat S Khan, the circulation figures of such magazines is only between 12,000 to 15,000 issues. Moreover, Hello! Pakistan, which will be published once a month, will be priced at 500 Pakistani rupees ($5.50, £3.50), no small amount by the country's standards.

 

Saifullah does not reveal any figures but has full faith that her publication will do well. "We've done our research," she says. "I can say with complete conviction that we will break the numbers of all English-language publications in the country."

 

In freelance fashion writer Moiz Kazmi's opinion, two types of people will read the magazine.

 

"Firstly, people will buy the magazine if they - or people that they know - have been featured in its pages," he says.

 

"Secondly, there are those who look at who's-wearing-what in the magazine, then take it to their local tailors to get the clothes copied for themselves."

 

There are some critics out there though.

 

Munawar Bawany, member of a local branch of Tanzeem-i-Islami, a Lahore-based religious organisation that aims to inculcate Islamic mores and values within society, says he would not read the magazine - and would discourage his children from "bringing it into the house".

 

"Such magazines promote and perpetuate ideologies that aren't inherently Islamic, that aren't part of our culture," he says.

 

"I would be concerned about the effect it may have on young people."

 

Saifullah, however, is quick to reassure that the magazine will take great pains to remain "socially responsible and culturally aware".

 

 

Karachi, and Pakistan, are often in the news for the wrong reasons

"You will never find a picture of a topless Veena Malik plastered on our cover," she says, referring to the incident late last year when Pakistani film actress Veena Malik shocked segments of society by appearing on the cover of an Indian magazine, apparently naked and with the letters I-S-I tattooed on her arm - an impertinent allusion to Pakistan's intelligence agency.

 

There are some further concerns.

 

Publishing a lifestyle magazine that serves as an open advertisement of wealth could be problematic in a country like Pakistan where kidnappings - often for staggering amounts of ransom - are on the rise.

 

A publication of this nature could also be viewed as symptomatic of a deeply-divided society - a disconnected elite, firmly ensconced in its own ivory tower, versus the impoverished masses.

 

Indeed, as models sashayed down the runway over the course of the four-day fashion showcase at Karachi's upscale DHA Golf and Country Club, on the far side of the town, bullets were fired and buses torched as the city's law and order situation took a turn for the worse.

 

But there is nothing wrong, says Saifullah, in portraying a more buoyant image of the country.

 

"It's about time we began moving away from all this negativity that we dwell in and that we seem to thrive on," she says.

 

"There are so many positive things taking place in Pakistan that remain unspoken."

 

URL Source: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-17581712

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Actress Sonam Kapoor believes in being friendly

MUMBAI - In an industry where people play the numbers game, actress Sonam Kapoor believes in being friendly. "Almost all of my directors are my friends. Be it Rakeysh Omprakash Mehra or Punit Malhotra, they all are dear friends. Even all my male co-stars are my friends," Sonam said at a recent event. As for her female friends in B-Town, she said: "I am most close to Jacqueline (Fernandes) and Asin (Thottumkal). In fact, these two are doing a movie (‘Housefull 2’) together and I am so jealous of them!" 
The actress, who is looking forward to her film ‘Players’, is set to don the garb of Santa, and play peacemaker between two friends on the TV show ‘Superstar Santa’. "My episode has two girls whose friendship is broken due to misunderstanding. My job is to bring them together and try to understand what went wrong," said Sonam, who insists she tries her best to be there for her own friends despite being busy. "I have a huge bunch of friends and I am always there for them whenever needed," she added.

Sajid and Jacqueline's love blossomed on board 'Housefull 2'?

MUMBAI - Given the fact that ‘Housefull 2’ has created a storm at the box office, filmmaker Sajid Khan seems to be revealing a lot more now than he has ever done earlier. Sajid has bid goodbye to a lot of his inhibitions, and has finally revealed that it was this very movie that acted as the blooming grounds for his alleged relationship with Jacqueline Fernandez.Both Sajid and Jacqueline have been over-secretive about their relationship in the past, and the reason is not very hard to guess. Given Jacqueline’s young age and incipient beginnings in Bollywood, none of them want their relationship to serve as a nail in the coffin as far as Jacqueline’s career is concerned. Hence all the secrecy, all the tight-lippedness.However, after ‘Housefull 2’, Sajid seems a bit at ease, and has revealed, “‘Housefull 2’ will always be special for me as it was during the making of this movie that I met the love of my life.”Well, now that ‘Housefull 2’ is creating massive waves in the hearts of people, Sajid and Jacqueline can take things easy.

NA Committee directs to shift Rinkle Kumari (Faryal Shah) to Islamabad

Saturday, March 17th, 2012 1:30:29 by 

In order to given protection against severe threats to their lives, the National Assembly Standing Committee on Human Rights directed the Sindh police to move two Hindu girls, including Rinkle Kumari (Faryal Shah), to Islamabad.

The panel took the matter after the Sindh police expressed concerns over the protection of Rinkle Kumari (Faryal Shah) and Lata Kumari, who were alleged kidnapped and forcibly converted to Islam.

Chairperson of the NA Standing Committee on Human Rights Riaz Fatyana said the two girls will be shifted to Islamabad via the first flight available on the Pakistan International Airlines (PIA) on Monday.

While speaking to media, he observed, “I have directed the Sindh police to shift the girls to Islamabad for better security”.

Earlier, Additional IG Police Sindh Falak Khurshid told the committee that both girls were forcibly kidnapped in connivance of some political names. The IG, however, made it clear that both girls in their statements refused to take reunion with their families.

The chairperson said that some sitting parliamentarians were allegedly involved in such atrocious incidents and were attempting to cover up the issue. Conversely, he did not ascertain their names.

During the meeting of the committee, the legislators were told that Rinkle Kumari, one of the two girls, is facing death threats from a sitting MNA and his family. They avoided disclosing the name of the said member due to sensitivity of the issue.

The panel was also told during the proceedings that two other Hindu girls, Bharti, the daughter of Narain, and Rajee, the daughter of Moro Kolhi, were also kidnapped and have not been recovered thus far. On which, the committee directed the law enforcement agencies at the earliest.

According to the report, Rajee was picked up from Pir Sakhai village near Tando Muhammad Khan district while Bharti was kidnapped from Mohammad Khan Road Khadda Baghdadi months back.

The Supreme Court of Pakistan has also taken up the notice, summoning Rinkle Kumari on March 26.

Short URL: http://www.newspakistan.pk/?p=16132

 

For Lindsey Vonn, Professional Triumph and Personal Turmoil

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Published: April 8, 2012

The New Work Times

 

VAIL, Colo. — Skiing in the mountains above the Vail resort last week, Lindsey Vonn slowed to a stop at the top of a trail named in her honor after she won the 2010 women’s Olympic downhill.

Vonn gazed at the trail but skied past it, and within minutes had ditched her ski gear and propped her stocking feet on a stool in a slopeside condominium.

“The 2010 Olympics seem far away now,” she said. “So much has happened. So much has changed. So many sleepless nights and dark days. The ups and downs — it has been really difficult. And I wouldn’t have predicted that.”

Last month, Vonn completed a record-setting race season, the greatest by a woman in the history of the World Cup. But her best year came amid personal turmoil as Vonn dealt with a thorny divorce.

Last November, after four years of marriage, Vonn split with her husband, Thomas, who had also acted as her coach, manager and equipment guru. Asked to characterize the divorce negotiations, Vonn last week sighed deeply and said, “I would say they’re a mess.”

The couple did not sign a prenuptial agreement, she said, and have not spoken in two months since they tried to settle many details of their breakup themselves.

“That didn’t work out,” she said.

The Vonns are worth millions of dollars, with Lindsey buffeted not only by her competition prize money but by multiple lucrative long-term contracts with sponsors like Rolex, Red Bull, Vail Resorts, Under Armour, and most recently, Kohl’s department stores.

“There are a lot of moving parts; it’s going to take a while,” she said of the divorce, adding with a rueful smile, “Calling it a mess might not be strong enough.”

Thomas Vonn, who is living in one of the couple’s dwellings, a condo in Park City, Utah, did not dispute Lindsey’s portrayal.

“The whole process has been difficult,” he said in a telephone interview. “The whole situation saddens you.”

The Vonns’ divorce unexpectedly altered what had been a winsome story line of a skiing star with rare, crossover mainstream popularity. The strengths of their partnership had been celebrated after her victories, and Thomas Vonn was a continual presence at her side. The divorce proceedings clashed with the projected, orderly public image, and they also spawned an Internet buzz that had Vonn dating any number of A-list celebrities, most notably the quarterback sensation Tim Tebow, then playing for the Denver Broncos.

With all this on her plate last fall — and after failing in 2010 to win the World Cup overall title for the first time since 2007 — Vonn traveled to Europe, ostensibly alone for the first time in 11 years. But Vonn was not exactly unaccompanied. In Europe, where she is a top-tier athletic luminary, she was stalked by reporters watching her every move on and off the mountain.

At the hub of the isolation and the adulation, Vonn found unprecedented success, becoming the first American to win four World Cup overall titles. And, she reclaimed some of the essential purpose of her chosen, highly individual sport.

“I realized for the first time in my life I was skiing for myself,” she said. “I had always had a lot of people helping me — my dad when I was younger, then Thomas, and my sponsors. And sometimes, I think I skied for those other people.

“This year, I realized that I’m the only one in the start gate and I’m the only one deciding what line to ski and how fast. That was really empowering. It was kind of like being a kid again, skiing for yourself and having fun with it.”

The result was a breakout season, if there is such a thing for an Olympic champion. Vonnwas on the top of the podium in events like the giant slalom that she had never won before, and she became even more dominant in her featured events, like the downhill. She increased her career World Cup victory total to 53, in easy reach of the women’s career mark of 62 wins and conceivably in range of Ingemar Stenmark’s record 86 career victories. Vonn, 27, says she expects to race for at least three more years, if not longer.

“We’ll see; it’s up to me,” she said. “I am now responsible for everything in my life.”

Not that the added responsibility is entirely comforting. She described a January night in St. Moritz, Switzerland, when she might usually have been celebrating victories in two of three races over a weekend. Instead, in her hotel room, she spent four hours going over legal papers related to her divorce.

Vonn said last week that she had been contemplating a divorce for “months, years, quite a few months.”

 

Britney Spears' steamy shower


Gripping performance ... Jason Trawick cups Britney's assets in the shower

 

By TIM NIXON

Published: 18th October 2011 by The Sun, UK

 

BRITNEY Spears romps with her real-life boyfriend in a steamy shower sex scene.

 

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The singer strips naked for her X-rated tryst with Jason Trawick in the eye-popping video to her new single Criminal.

 

Their onscreen romance kicks off when Jason's hardman alter-ego steps in to rescue damsel in distress Britney from her violent boyfriend at a posh soiree.

 

He punches the suited fella to the ground before the singer finishes him off with a kick to the family jewels.

 

Criminal Jason then takes Britney under his wing as the pair embark on a robbery spree in London, stopping every now and then for a bit of nookie.

 

 

Back at it ... Britney and Jason can't keep their hands off each other

Aside from their shower shenanigans, the couple – who have been dating for two years – also get down and dirty on a bed, with tattooed Jason caressing Britney's lingerie-clad body with hungry hands.

 

 

Touching scene ... Britney and Jason

Other scenes include Britney pointing a gun at a shopkeeper as Jason - looking horrified at his girlfriend's smooth transition from law abiding citizen to partner in crime - steals a stash of items.

 

The video ends with armed police tracing the wanted pair to an apartment before opening fire on them.

 

 

Smashing entrance ... Jason Trawick steps in to rescue Brit and beat up her man

With bullets exploding all around them, Britney and Jason ignore the chaos to spend what appears to be their final living moments kissing.

 

However, when cops move into the flat to search for their dead bodies, they find nothing.

 

 

 

 

Gun-believable ... Britney gets to grips with the criminal lifestyle

As the final credits roll, Britney and Jason are seen driving off on a motorbike.

 

Britney sparked uproar when she shot the video's heist scenes in Stoke Newington, just weeks after the London riots.

 

 

Domestic violence ... Britney's soon-to-be ex flips his lid

Authorities demanded the pop star apologise for the shoot's themes of lawlessness and weapon-toting so soon after real scenes of violent disorder.

 

Councillor Ian Rathbone, of the Hackney Council, said: "I think she should apologise and make a sizeable donation to a Hackney charity that deals with young people for the rudeness and damage she's done to this community."

 

 

Taking the kiss ... Britney and Jason lock lips amid a ceaseless spray of bullets

Fornicating passangers, what if in airplane lavatory?

"The Captain Requests That All Zippers Be Returned to the Upright Position"

How are flight attendants supposed to deal with fornicating passengers?

 

By Brian Palmer| Sept. 12, 2011, Slate

 

Is it easy to get away with sex in an airplane lavatory? What if you get caught?

A couple who spent a little too long "making out" in the bathroom of a Frontier Airlines plane set off a security alert on Sunday, the 10th anniversary of the Sept. 11 attacks. When passengers noticed they had been in the bathroom for a suspiciously long time, crew members alerted the captain, and authoritiesdispatched a pair of fighter jets to accompany the flight into Detroit. On ordinary days, when calling in a military escort would be over the top, what are flight attendants supposed to do when they happen upon an attempt to join the mile-high club?

Knock, inquire politely, and barge in if necessary. Airlines don't directly address this issue during flight attendant training, but, these days, few flight attendants tolerate sex onboard. They forbid able-bodied adults from entering the lavatory together. If passengers waiting in line suggest that something untoward may be happening in a bathroom, the crew member knocks and asks if everything is OK. If they get no response, flight attendants have the means to unlock and open lavatory doors. (Sunday's mix-up was unusual, because flight attendants usually enter a lavatory and have a look around before notifying the captain of a security threat.) Some aroused passengers don't even bother with the lavatory, which forces flight attendants to tap them on the shoulder and request that they stop having sex in their seats.

There is one glaring exception to this protocol. Richard Branson, head of Virgin Atlantic, has pledged that his employees are not the type to "bang on lavatory doors when a couple slips in there." The airline even installed double beds with privacy screens in some aircraft, for a "more intimate flight." Branson's antics have gotten him in trouble, though. Critics call him sexist, and U.S.-based flight attendant groups say he's more concerned with brand management than stopping terrorists who might try to assemble bombs in the bathroom.

The Branson way is a throwback to the 1960s and 1970s, when flight crews were not only willing to look the other way, but may even have shared a laugh with post-coital passengers. According to flight attendant legend, crew members occasionally greeted couples returning from the bathroom with a glass of champagne and a cigarette and officially welcomed them to the mile-high club. While this level of acceptance faded, flight attendants remained relatively permissive for decades. Overly frisky passengers might get cut off from alcohol service but rarely faced more serious consequences. In a 1999 account, flight attendant Elliott Neal Hester explained that "most of my colleagues ... tolerate and even chuckle at passenger audacity. Just as long as it doesn't get too out of hand."

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The security panic that followed the Sept. 11 attacks seems to have driven the mile-high club underground. These days, flight attendants will virtually always break up a lavatory tryst or window-aisle romance.

Aspiring in-flight fornicators probably don't have to worry about prosecution, as long as they cease and desist when ordered to do so. (They should, however, worry about hygiene. Healthmagazine counts airplane bathrooms among the 12 germiest places you'll encounter on an average day.) Only a handful of passengers who have been caught in the act midflight have been referred to police. In September 2006, Carl Persing and Dawn Sewell ignored several requests to refrain from oral sex in the main cabin. According to an FBI affidavit, Persing "was observed with his face pressed against Sewell's vaginal area. Sewell was observed smiling." The couple acted out after being refused alcohol, and Persing promised a flight attendant he wouldn't "go quietly." In 1999, a British couple were charged after getting drunk in business class on an American Airlines flight and ignoring pleas to keep their hands to themselves. Far more often, however, plane sex goes unpunished. (From Slate)

 

Sex Is Cheap

Why young men have the upper hand in bed, even when they're failing in life.

 

By Mark Regnerus | Posted Friday, Feb. 25, 2011, at 12:23 PM ET on Slate

 

We keep hearing that young men are failing to adapt to contemporary life. Their financial prospects are impaired—earnings for 25- to 34-year-old men have fallen by 20 percent since 1971. Their college enrollment numbers trail women's: Only 43 percent of American undergraduates today are men. Last year, women made up the majority of the work force for the first time. And yet there is one area in which men are very much in charge: premarital heterosexual relationships.

When attractive women will still bed you, life for young men, even those who are floundering, just isn't so bad. This isn't to say that all men direct the course of their relationships. Plenty don't. But what many young men wish for—access to sex without too many complications or commitments—carries the day. If women were more fully in charge of how their relationships transpired, we'd be seeing, on average, more impressive wooing efforts, longer relationships, fewer premarital sexual partners, shorter cohabitations, and more marrying going on. Instead, according to the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health (which collects data well into adulthood), none of these things is occurring. Not one.The terms of contemporary sexual relationships favor men and what they want in relationships, not just despite the fact that what they have to offer has diminished, but in part because of it. And it's all thanks to supply and demand.

To better understand what's going on, it's worth a crash course in "sexual economics," an approach best articulated by social psychologists Roy Baumeister and Kathleen Vohs. As Baumeister, Vohs, and others have repeatedly shown, on average, men want sex more than women do. Call it sexist, call it whatever you want—the evidence shows it's true. In one frequently cited study, attractive young researchers separately approached opposite-sex strangers on Florida State University's campus and proposed casual sex. Three-quarters of the men were game, but not one woman said yes. I know: Women love sex too. But research like this consistently demonstrates that men have a greater and far less discriminating appetite for it. As Baumeister and Vohs note, sex in consensual relationships therefore commences only when women decide it does.

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And yet despite the fact that women are holding the sexual purse strings, they aren't asking for much in return these days—the market "price" of sex is currently very low. There are several likely reasons for this. One is the spread of pornography: Since high-speed digital porn gives men additional sexual options—more supply for his elevated demand—it takes some measure of price control away from women. The Pill lowered the cost as well. There are also, quite simply, fewer social constraints on sexual relationships than there once were. As a result, the sexual decisions of young women look more like those of men than they once did, at least when women are in their twenties. The price of sex is low, in other words, in part because its costs to women are lower than they used to be.

But just as critical is the fact that a significant number of young men are faring rather badly in life, and are thus skewing the dating pool. It's not that the overall gender ratio in this country is out of whack; it's that there's a growing imbalance between the number of successful young women and successful young men. As a result, in many of the places where young people typically meet—on college campuses, in religious congregations, in cities that draw large numbers of twentysomethings—women outnumber men by significant margins. (In one Manhattan ZIP code, for example, women account for 63 percent of 22-year-olds.)

The idea that sex ratios alter sexual behavior is well-established. Analysis of demographic data from 117 countries has shown that when men outnumber women, women have the upper hand: Marriage rates rise and fewer children are born outside marriage. An oversupply of women, however, tends to lead to a more sexually permissive culture. The same holds true on college campuses. In the course of researching our book Premarital Sex in America, my co-author and I assessed the effects of campus sex ratios on women's sexual attitudes and behavior. We found that virginity is more common on those campuses where women comprise a smaller share of the student body, suggesting that they have the upper hand. By contrast, on campuses where women outnumber men, they are more negative about campus men, hold more negative views of their relationships, go on fewer dates, are less likely to have a boyfriend, and receive less commitment in exchange for sex.

The National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health data offer other glimpses into just how low the cost of sex is for young men ages 18 through 23. Take the speed with which these men say their romantic relationships become sexual: 36 percent of young men's relationships add sex by the end of the second week of exclusivity; an additional 13 percent do so by the end of the first month. A second indicator of cheap sex is the share of young men's sexual relationships—30 percent—that don't involve romance at all: no wooing, no dates, no nothing. Finally, as my colleagues and I discovered in our interviews, striking numbers of young women are participating in unwanted sex—either particular acts they dislike or more frequent intercourse than they'd prefer or mimicking porn (being in a dating relationship is correlated to greater acceptance of and use of porn among women).

Yes, sex is clearly cheap for men. Women's "erotic capital," as Catherine Hakim of the London School of Economics has dubbed it, can still be traded for attention, a job, perhaps a boyfriend, and certainly all the sex she wants, but it can't assure her love and lifelong commitment. Not in this market. It's no surprise that the percentage of 25- to 34-year-olds who are married has shrunk by an average of 1 percent each year this past decade.

Jill, a 20-year-old college student from Texas, is one of the many young women my colleagues and I interviewed who finds herself confronting the sexual market's realities. Startlingly attractive and an all-star in all ways, she patiently endures her boyfriend's hemming and hawing about their future. If she were operating within a collegiate sexual economy that wasn't oversupplied with women, men would compete for her and she would easily secure the long-term commitment she says she wants. Meanwhile, Julia, a 21-year-old from Arizona who's been in a sexual relationship for two years, is frustrated by her boyfriend's wish to "enjoy the moment and not worry about the future." Michelle, a 20-year-old from Colorado, said she is in the same boat: "I had an ex-boyfriend of mine who said that, um, he didn't know if he was ever going to get married because, he said, there's always going to be someone better." If this is "the end of men," someone really ought to let them know.

And yet while young men's failures in life are not penalizing them in the bedroom, their sexual success may, ironically, be hindering their drive to achieve in life. Don't forget your Freud: Civilization is built on blocked, redirected, and channeled sexual impulse, because men will work for sex. Today's young men, however, seldom have to. As the authors of last year's book Sex at Dawn: The Prehistoric Origins of Modern Sexuality put it, "Societies in which women have lots of autonomy and authority tend to be decidedly male-friendly, relaxed, tolerant, and plenty sexy." They're right. But then try getting men to do anything. (From Slate)

Smart Girls Wear Short Skirts, Too

By Amanda Marcotte | Posted Monday, Aug. 29, 2011, at 1:45 PM ET

I have one strong desire that carries through life, which is that I never become one of those women who self-identifies as a feminist while conflating the problem of inequality with the non-problem of young women being sexual.  Should I ever start assuming that young women who have sex are being had, or if I start hyperventilating about young women wearing miniskirts, I hope I at least have the good sense to give up the writing thing and go into real estate.  A piece like Lisa Belkin's in the New York Times, where she conflates women having sex with men and actual social inequalities between college men and women, makes me cringe in embarrassment for the writer.  Having the whole world look at you and wonder if you've truly forgotten what it's like to be young and horny is my version of the nightmare where you're speaking in public and you look down and realize you've peed yourself in front of everyone. 

 

To make it all worse, Belkin has some very real concerns to go along with her hand-wringing about college women wearing skimpy clothes to attract male attention or that young men make raunchy jokes.  Belkin is quite right to be upset that men still exert total control over the college social scene, and that young women feel they have to suck up to men or they won't have a social life at all.  It is troubling that some of her students believe that women have too much power because women technically have the legal right to decline a sexual encounter (though that right isn't honored in the legal system the way it should be).  But to illustrate her point by fussing over the fact that young people drink and young women like to show off skin misses the point completely.  In a world with complete equality, young women would still wear teeny skirts and drink alcohol at parties, because these things are fun.  Even more distressingly, Belkin conflates the problem of campus rape with the fact that young women like to look sexy, saying that the young women who wore sexy Halloween costumes to a Duke fraternity party "had mothers who attended more than one Take Back the Night March in their college days," as if being opposed to campus rape and being willing to wear sexy clothes are in opposition to each other.  But as the organizers of Slutwalk know, that's absolutely false.  In fact, you can and should argue that men can look at a woman wearing sexy clothes and think, "She wants to look sexy," and not, "She's asking to be violently assaulted."

 

To Belkin, the fact that women dance in their underwear at parties is part of the same pattern that caused a fraternity to circulate an email explaining that women aren't actually people, as if women could get their people status back by putting more clothes on.  But I think that men are perfectly capable of being turned on by a woman dancing in her underwear while never forgetting that said woman has a family that loves her, a mind of her own, and ambitions that are equal to his.  We don't allow men's sexuality to dehumanize them in our eyes.  If a young man spends his weekends partying and flirting with women, and spends his time in the classroom pulling down As, we don't see that as a contradiction. The belief that female sexual expression is uniquely dehumanizing is a double standard, no matter how much you dress it up in feminist language.  Instead of condemning young women for the length of their skirts, why not use that energy for condemning anyone who would think that a woman is lesser-than because she wears a miniskirt? 

 

Again, it's a shame, because I do think Belkin makes some interesting points about how unfair campus life is to women, who don't get to share power over orchestrating campus social life.  That women's relationships with each other are eroded by competing for male attention is a problem, as is that men get to make all the decisions about what to do for fun and the women are just expected to tag along.  But these problems are complicated, and solutions aren't immediately evident. Plus, the solutions to them would require asking something of men, that they share power and treat women with respect.  Asking something of men seems to be the big taboo in our culture, even sometimes among feminists.  In contrast, scolding women about what they wear is easy, even if it's a red herring. (Slate.com)

 

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